We've all heard about positive adoption language. To be honest, before we adopted Jazzie I was probably guilty of using some negative adoption language myself. However, I have learned a lot since we've had the girls. "Real mother" versus "birth mother" is one that comes up a lot. Since it is true that I find the question whether or not I am Jazzie's and Tahlia's "real mother" a bit offensive, I also know that (most) people don't mean to be offensive when they ask it. Lately I've had a lot of people ask whether or not Jazzie and Tahlia are "real sisters". I usually just answer "yes" and leave it at that, or I say something like "yes, they are real sisters, just not biologically related" if I want the person to know that they have just used some poor adoption terminology. I don't think I am as sensitive to it anymore as I once was.
The other day I was reading a blog and came across the term "metcha day", instead of "gotcha day". The author found the term gotcha day not politically correct and thought that metcha day was more appropriate. To each their own, but I think that is being a bit overly sensitive. The author listed some definitions of "gotcha" from the dictionary: