So we've been having a really nice summer break so far. We have gone away for a few days with the family, the girls have done a few day camps, they are in gymnastics and take swim lessons every week, we've had playdates with friends, we've gone to some our favorite places like the Children's Museum, the park and the pottery painting place, we've gone out to lunch, we've gone to the pool and we've had fun at home with our craft supplies, games and books. Not a bad way to spend summer break, right? It has been very nice and enjoyable for the most part. Then why is there a part of me that really cannot wait for school to start again? It's the fact that our house seems to have become one of the few houses on the street where the entire group of neighborhood kids assembles on a daily basis. Our house is always the place where kids want to play and where they come in 63 times a day to ask for something. Quite frankly, it is driving me crazy. Don't the other houses have toys? Don't the other houses have snacks and drinks? I feel like it has been so one-sided and I have started feeling resentful. Not only towards the parents, but towards the other kids as well and it's not even their fault!
I feel really torn because on the one hand I like that the girls are here so that I know where they are and what they are up to. It is nice that my girls are happy because they have their friends to play with and keep busy with. On the other hand, I sometimes wish that the kids could play somewhere else for a change. That somebody else would offer popsicles, drinks and other snacks, etc.
We had an incident yesterday that almost drove me over the edge. There is one girl in particular that is always here. I will call her R. For the most part I don't mind, because she plays really nicely with Tahlia and they are great buddies. R. is here on an almost daily basis for hours at a time and she has often stayed for lunch. So when Tahlia went over to her house yesterday and was turned away because there were already two other kids there, I was furious. I was furious because Tahlia was crying (who wants to see their girl upset and hurt?) and because this is the girl that is ALWAYS here. The one time that Tahlia goes over there she is turned away. What???? My feelings are that nobody will be turned away at our home. If I already have kids here, other kids can either come in or I will send them all outside. We do not exclude anybody. I am not sure what to do about the situation, because I am afraid that if I bring it up with R.'s parents, they will take it the wrong way and that my girls will suffer from any possible consequences. To me that is not worth it, so I stew on it, vent to my friends, eat chocolate and get over it :-)
I am glad that Tahlia is so close with R., but it also has it's bad sides. This morning Tahlia went over to play with another girl on the street (L.), because R. was not home. However, when R. came home, Tahlia immediately left L.'s house because she wanted to play with R. I immediately called L's mom to find out what exactly happened and was told that Tahlia and R. told L. they didn't want to play with her anymore. I was so embarrassed because this is NOT how I want my kids to behave. What Tahlia did was rude and mean. I had a talk with Tahlia about it, I made her go over to L.'s house to apologize and to invite her to come and play. I also explained that if anything like this ever happens again, she will be grounded. Aaah, the drama!
So that is why I am a little excited for school to start. Even though I am not looking forward to getting up early, packing lunches and doing homework, I am looking forward to not having to deal with the drama.